Too Much, Too Soon

I’m not ready to move back in with Patrick.  He seems to forget that living under the same roof was a complete disaster.  If we share an apartment again, our relationship will return to the way it was when Patrick and I were constantly arguing, first over furniture and eventually each other’s friends.  I thought we agreed to take our relationship one step at a time, but Patrick made it clear that he doesn’t want to wait.  Truthfully, the pressure of living together is too much for me to handle right now.  I wish Patrick could be just a little more patient because sooner or later, I’m bound to change my mind.

Comments

[Lorene]

Robin, I don't think living with Patrick is such a good idea. If you are second guessing it already then it just is not meant to be. When you moved in with Jason Morgan at the penthouse and at the cottage, it was never a question or an issue for you. You both wanted to live together period. I just don't think you and Patrick are meant to be.

[Jay]

Okay Robin, what is your problem? Why did you do that to Patrick? I understand you don't want to live together, but my gosh, why tell him you don't want to see him until he agrees with you? Don't you think that is a little hypocritical? I do. Patrick is trying so hard to love you with all he has and be good at it. But if you haven't noticed, you kind of shot him down. Please give him a break and go back to him. He loves you so much.

[Gina]

If you are not ready to move back in with Patrick yet, you absolutely shouldn't. Don't use that one 24-hour period, though, to be the judge of whether or not it will work out. There is always a period of adjustment when you take a step like that, and that period will last longer than a day. You will fight, whether you move in together or not, but it doesn't mean you two are doomed, or that you are incompatible. It's hard for Patrick to be patient, you know how he is when he wants something. But I have all the faith in the world that he'll wait for you, whenever you decide to move back in with him.

[Em]

It seems like you two were in your honeymoon period and now reality has set in. I don't think you two are compatiable. I remember when you made the decision to move into Jason's. You wanted to move in because you missed him and hated leaving him each night. It just seemed right to move in then; no doubts whatsoever. It just doesn't seem like you and Patrick are meant to be. He obviously is not respecting your decision now. You deserve someone who respects you.

[Jocelyn]

Robin, it is okay to be scared. But you should have just told Patrick that. Did you see the look on his face when you said all those hurtful things? He deserves more than that. He loves you and wants you to be happy. I am sure he would have understood if you just told him.

[Ann]

Robin, I love you girl but you're getting on my nerves. If you don't wanna move in with Patrick, fine. Let him know it's too much for you. Make him understand why you don't wanna move in instead of being so harsh on him. Telling him that you'd rather sleep on the street was insulting. And then to open the door and send him out in the rain was plain cruel. You need to wake up and realize that you and Patrick have it good. Stop messing up your own happiness. If you love him as much as you claim to, deal with your insecurities once and for all. Patrick deserves much better treatment than you're giving him right now.

[Tonia]

Robin - I understand that you're scared and that you do love Patrick, but today you hurt him deeply. If you keep pushing him away you could lose him for good. Be careful!

[Angela]

I'm glad that you and Patrick are trying to move forward in your relationship. I know it's difficult sometimes and you're not always going to see eye to eye. Please try to remember that relationships are new to Patrick and if he seems impatient, it's just because he's anxious to be with you all the time. He's in love with you and going with his feelings and emotions. Don't be afraid to take this step with Patrick. You two have something special together. Just because things may not have worked out completely the last time, it doesn't mean they won't next time. Plus, it wasn't all bad, was it? There were good moments, too!

[Kathy]

Patrick loves you so much, he has never loved anyone the way he loves you. When you got shot, he told Pete that he finally knew the pain his father felt when his mother died. You are his life and wants you to share your lives together. You need to tell him in a nice way you do want to take it slow. In time, the two of you will be together for the rest of your lives. Remember he does love you.

[Courtney]

Robin, I'm usually here to give encouragement or a positive note to a potentially bad situation, but today, I'm just here to ask you to please start using your head! For someone that is said to be quite brilliant, today, you surely didn't show it. You keep pushing Patrick, and one day, he might lose the nerve to keep fighting for you. You say you love him, but what you did today didn't exactly show it. For once, I think it's time for you to step up and prove to him that what you have together means something to you as well. It's your turn to make something happen.

[brenda]

Robin, you are being stupid in pushing Patrick away. He loves you and wants to cherish his life with you and you are pushing him away for no apparent reason. Your logic sounds unreasonable. You are being hypocritical. When he wasn't ready to commit, all you wanted was a commitment and now that he is ready, you're acting like a little child and pushing him away. You seriously need to rethink your logic or else not only are you going to lose a wonderful man, you are proving women like Carly absolutely right by being a hypocrite.

[Leah]

I love you and Patrick together, Robin. Every other couple has real problems but you and Patrick only fight over furniture which shows just how compatible you are. I know eventually you'll move in with him but I say you should be spontaneous and go for it right now, believe me. If Patrick really loved you it wouldn't matter where you lived.

[H. Schneider]

I feel you were a little hurtful and harsh to Patrick today. Your hesitation to move back in with him is understandable but it just seemed like your insecurities took over. Your heart should know, feel, and trust that things will be okay. The Robin we know and love would've been a little more receptive. Stay strong, girl! But be careful with his feelings, too. I know you two will make it!

[Sam]

Living with Patrick was a complete disaster? How do you know? You lived with him what, two days? Give me a break, Robin. You cannot tell anything from two days. You are using that as an excuse, and a pretty lame one at that. Patrick is right, you are stubborn and controlling. After all you did to get him, and all the two of you have been through, you are literally crazy if you let him go! What are you doing? I promise you, you keep pushing him away like you are, and one time he will not come back. Robin, come to your senses before it is too late!

[carla]

Robin, you are crazy! Patrick is the cutest, smartest, sweetest guy and he is totally in love with you. He treats you like a queen! Didn't the hostage crisis and your near-death teach you that life is short? Go for it!