Still Searching

When I asked Lucky to be the father of my child, I wasn’t surprised that he refused.  From the way he talked about Cameron and Jake, it was very clear that he loves his kids too much to not want to play a role in my child’s life.  Both Lucky and Jax expressed their desire to be hands-on parents, and I never really considered that unlike Patrick, some men look forward to fatherhood.  Unfortunately, I’m no closer to finding a donor now than before I made my list.  The truth is no one I know is going to agree to father a child and then walk away from it.

Comments

[Angela]

Robin, Lucky's reaction is sincere and very touching. He misses his children and can't imagine not being a part of their lives. Have you tried to talk to Patrick and find out about his concerns about having children? Perhaps, there's a lot more to it than him not wanting to have them. The two of you walked away from each other so abruptly when love was still there. You might be surprised at what you find out together.

[debbie]

You really should go to a bank for your donation. Those men don't want to be hands-on dads. Or you should wait to see when Patrick changes his mind.

[Leslie M.]

No duh! I can't imagine what you were thinking in the first place. I would have thought you knew your friends better than that. Frankly, I'm glad you finally figured this out. I applaud your decision to go it alone - entirely your choice. But you were starting to look a tad pathetic, if not just daft.

[Reba K., Missouri]

Not to be mean or anything... Just to ask you a few questions... if you are HIV+ why would you want to have a child? Why not adopt a child and be safe?

[Patti]

Please, please go use an anonymous donor. Don't let anyone stand in your way and don't take Dr. McSleazy back, ever.

[heatherh]

If you just wait, then Patrick will come around. He is terrified of being a father, but he's even more terrified of the woman he loves having a baby with someone else. He is starting to realize that you are all he needs and you have to let him come to this realization on his own. Deep down you want him to be your babies' father, too, and it is almost within your grasp. Good things come to those who wait.

[Just a fan]

Robin, now you are seeing the light. Asking someone to father a child and then ignore the child is unnatural. Either go to a sperm bank or step back and reconsider. You are young and have time to figure this out, what is the rush? By the way, obviously you and Patrick still care about one another - don't write him off so quickly.

[Elizabeth]

Stop already. You're to be commended for realizing that you are ready to have a baby. Maybe you should just make a withdrawal from the bank as Carly suggested. Leo, Jax, Lucky, Nikolas, Max and even Spinelli all love children, isn't that why you chose them? However, you are making yourself look bad personally and professionally by asking men for their DNA.

[Karen]

Why not ask someone that you wouldn't mind sharing responsibility for your child? Why not find a man that not only shares your dream but once shared that dream with you? You and Jason are so much to each other and you once said that maybe the time wasn't right for you then. Maybe the time is right for you now. I think you should talk to Jason, explore your reconnection and hopefully you both will finally have that family you wanted with each other. He's always been supportive of you and your dreams. He's helped get to the point where you could even think about having a child. No matter what happens with either of you, your hearts belong to each other. You both are just hiding from it right now.

[Jim]

Robin, you have asked every man you know to be the father of your child and it didn't work. This is hopeless for you Robin. Why don't you and Patrick kiss and make up and ask him to be the father of your child instead? You have no other option.

[Marion]

I agree with Elizabeth that you shouldn't pick a friend or acquaintance to father your child. Go to one of these sperm banks that has intellegent, wealthy, good-looking donors. There will be no connection and no problems later.

[Anne]

Did you ever really talk to Patrick about why he doesn't want to be a father? Could it be fear? Could it be the result of his own troubled childhood? Did you ever think of any of this? Is it possible that his fears could be overcome by someone who actually loves him and supports him? You know, someone who doesn't tell him what to do and what to feel all the time, the way that you do. I'm still getting over your insensitivity in asking Jax and Lucky, considering what is going on in their lives at this time.

[kjohnson]

Of course, certain people would like to be "hands-on" with their child, Robin. You need to find someone who you know will oblige to your wishes as to what the boundaries are for your child. Yes, the biological father will want to get to know who his child is, but there are those who will agree to let you be the "hands-on" parental figure. You also need to understand where Patrick is coming from. He still loves you, or as he says, and I quote, "cares" for you. Please notice his subtle hints and his reasons for ruining your meetings with some of the men. I am not saying that you should consider him, but try to see his point of view. This is obviously getting in the way of him and Leyla, so be careful. Words of wisdom: you do not need more drama than has been created.

[Megan]

The majority of fathers are going to want to be a part of their child's life, Robin. I think the only reason you are doing this is to make a point to Patrick. I realize that there are lots of single moms out there, but in my opinion children need a stable home with BOTH parents.

[Kathy]

Good grief! Go to a sperm bank. You are acting like an idiot.