Unwelcome Interference

My decision to have a child has nothing to do with Patrick.  I don’t know how I can state my case any clearer than I already have, yet Patrick still refuses to listen.  He feels that I’m rushing into this notion of having a child too soon after our breakup.  All I want is for him to stay out of my business, but he’s creating more problems.  Patrick told Carly that Jax was on my list of potential fathers.  In true Carly fashion, she flipped out before Jax had the chance to consider my offer.  Patrick got exactly what he wanted and now he couldn’t be happier.  For someone who is so adamant about not being a parent, he sure as hell is playing a huge role in deciding who will father my baby.

Comments

[debbie]

Robin, you were dead wrong in asking a married man. Patrick was right to tell you to think about adoption. I think it would be good for you. Patrick is still so in love with you and if you would just give him time, I am sure he would be willing to be the baby's dad. You are really rushing things and need to slow down. Think long and hard about what you are doing. A lot of married women would go off on you for asking their husbands. You need to get a grip on this.

[Elizabeth]

Don't blame Patrick on that one. Carly had a right to know Jax was on your father list. Did you honestly believe Carly WOULDN'T go ballistic learning that you wanted her husband to donate his genetic material? The two of you have a long and acrimonious history.

As for Jax, he would make an excellent father, not just for his financial and genetic make-up but because he is a hands-on father.

[Marianne]

It's getting clear every day that you should have dumped Patrick a long time ago. This is not love or some underlying want to have a child with you. This is sick and manipulative. He has no right to control you or your decisions. Making your decisions for your own good? Isn't that what you hated? And what a jerk for suggesting that you look into adoption! Now that he's run every candidate off your list, he's suggesting a process which he knows full well might not be in your favor, being HIV positive and single.

[Gina]

Maybe Patrick's not as adamant about not being a parent as he pretends to be. There's obviously a reason he's trying so hard to interfere, and I think part of that reason is that he's jealous. You only have to look in his eyes to see that. As for you, I think you were completely wrong to call Carly selfish. I know you don't like her, but Jax is her husband, she has every right to be upset over another woman asking him to father her child. It wasn't fair for you to tell her it's none of her business, because it absolutely is her business. I really hope you are doing this for the right reasons.

[jennifer m]

Robin dear, listen to what he isn't saying. What he isn't saying is that he doesn't want you to have a child with anybody but him. It's clear to me the man still loves you, and like all men he gets scared thinking about being a father. Give him a chance and see things from his side.

[Patti]

Please, please ignore Patrick. Go get a job at a hospital that has respect for you and go to a sperm bank. I'm tired of all these people degrading you and the embarrassment. It's vile.

[squirrelhome]

That boy is a mess. He doesn't want to be the father of your child but he is blocking anyone else from being the father. Ummm, sounds like someone deep down may want to be somebody's dad. What is really behind his adamant stance on no babies in his and your future? You need to get to the bottom of this. It has to be something more than his desire to be the best at his career, because I'm sure other men have done it. But if this is the way he feels... I'm just sorry that you are both so hurt right now. All that aside, Patrick deserves a good Devane slap or roundhouse kick for his behavior of late.

[Angela]

Robin, Jax is Carly's husband and it is awkward and inappropriate to consider him a donor for you. I am not surprised by her reaction. Yes, Patrick is interfering and I'm sure there is a very good reason why he's doing it. I will always be convinced of his love for you and yours for him. Maybe that has a lot to do with why Patrick is acting the way he is about your plans.

[Pamela]

Robin, much as you're right that it's not Patrick's business as to whether or not you have a baby, he may have a point in that choosing to go full speed ahead with it right now may be your way of trying to fill the hole that your breakup has made. Also, you shouldn't be asking a man who's married or in a committed relationship to be a sperm donor. While making the list of potential fathers might have been fun, I can't actually see any of the men on it as being suitable for various reasons (eligibility, age, not wanting to be a hands-on father). Although you may not like the idea very much, I think a sperm bank is the best way to go. I wish you the best of luck!

[Sarah]

Patrick is trying to hide it but he wants you bad. That is why he keeps interfering. You will see that he will do everything in his power to have you in his life again.

[KIKI]

You want privacy when it comes to your private affairs, but you continually have your nose in someone else's business. Is it just me or are you becoming even more selfish and hypocritical? How can you stand there and say that it's none of Carly's business if you want to have a baby by HER husband? Carly may be selfish, but she is completely right on this one. And for once, I am glad that Patrick interfered! I suppose you would be perfectly fine with a woman wanting to have a kid by your spouse! Let's say for the sake of argument that Jax agreed to this arrangement... you'd have his first surviving child and Carly his own wife would have his second child! Why should his own wife get his sloppy seconds?!

[Brenda]

Robin, I am so glad you are not with that man anymore. I can't believe he would actively try to destroy your hopes and dreams like this. You need someone who respects you and your right to make your own decisions. That was never his strong point.

On the other hand, you do happen to know a man that has supported you unconditionally. Why don't you go to Jason and talk to him about what you want to do? Maybe in the meantime, you will both finally acknowledge the feelings that still exist between the two of you. Who knows? Maybe you will get that complete family that you both have always wanted to have with each other. You and Jason have always been in sync with each other, maybe you can be with this, too? Then all you will have to worry about is what to name your little Scorpio-Morgan baby!!

[Lee]

Robin, you just expressed why you and Patrick never worked and will never work, because he does not listen to you. It's always about him and what he wants. This man has treated you with such disrespect and ill-regard that I was amazed you continued to stay with him as long as you did. You want to be a mother, then who cares what he or anyone else says? Go do it. What about Jason? You two have deep feelings for one another, that much is obvious. Both of you want a child and you have a long history. I can't tell you what to do, that's your choice but Robin, "the right guy" is literally in front of you. The family you and Jason always wanted is right there. You both just have to wake up and see it. The rest of us can.

[Lori]

Patrick does not deserve to be a part of your having a child in any way!! He is disrespectful, controlling and pushy. He wants what he wants more than he will ever want what you want. His attitude is extremely irritating and he needs to stay away from you! He is trying to make this all about him, and it has nothing to do with him. A man who has to go behind his ex-girlfriend's back and sabotage everything she is trying to do is not a man that you want to spend any time with at all. Robin, please listen to me, you deserve better, you have had better than the best. Remember that, and run far away from Patrick!!!

[Kristy]

Robin, I've liked you since you were a child. I pretty much grew up with you. But I do think that asking married men to donate their sperm is more than just wrong. It's rude. Most married women would have reacted the same way as Carly did. I would've reacted even worse!

With that being said, I do think you would make a great mom. And, if you want the father to be someone you know, just make sure you go after the single guys. That way, there's less mess and confusion.