The Way It Is

Patrick wants things to go back to the way they were before Emma was born, but I’m not ready for sex.  Romantic gestures are the furthest thought from my mind and no fancy lingerie is going to put me in the mood.  I’m sorry if Patrick doesn’t like it, but that’s the way it is.  My first priority is to my daughter and I can’t concern myself with fulfilling Patrick’s needs.  Emma deserves my undivided attention right now, and I just don’t have time for anything else.

Comments

[squirrelhome]

Wow, Robin, you sound pretty adamant about this. You are right, of course, that the little one comes first. I'm just thinking that sometimes a balance can be reached. Everybody can get some attention. Even you. Maybe that's what Patrick was trying to do - give you some attention, too. Umm, take it easy on all of you. Try not to think too much.

[Angela]

Robin, wow! Patrick gave you the nightgown only to show you how he feels about you. I'm sorry that you feel so pressured by his gesture. I know that I always suggest that the two of you talk, but I think it's important in any relationship. Patrick is very worried about you. Remember what I said about remembering the vows you both exchanged at your wedding. There is nothing you can't tell him, so please give it a try.

[Amy]

Ummm... Robin, dear... what is wrong with you, honey!?!? You just married the man of your dreams and you don't want to have sex with him!?!? Maybe you should go get checked out for post-partum depression. It is understandable that you want to care for Emma but she IS being cared for by both you and Patrick. Your husband should be your first priority. He is the one that is going to be with you for life. Emma is going to grow up and leave one day, but Patrick will be there forever. You really need to start your marriage off on solid ground! Come on, Robin, it can't be that bad to have sex with Dr. Patrick "hottie" Drake!!! I think there are worse things that Patrick could be doing besides buying lingerie for you. Get a reality check, Robin!

[Marge J.]

Did you ever think that was part of your problem? You miss Patrick's attention, love, comfort and cuddling... maybe if you let him in to comfort and love and hold you in his arms, which he does sooooo well you might feel better about things. Remember there is room for both you and Emma in his life, and there is room for Patrick and Emma in yours. Don't shut him out.

[maggie]

Wow!!! Well, if I were you, Robin, I would open your eyes and listen to your husband for a change. Novel concept, I know, but he actually loves you and he knows that you're in trouble. PPD is no laughing matter and not a joke or somthing to be brushed off because you think you know everything. He is worried about you and all you ever do is insult him and bite his head off. He was trying to make you feel better, you ungrateful know-it-all.

[Elizabeth]

Not even a girls night out would change things? Girl, one moment you're worried about Emma's safety after Sonny drops by, the next you're at the other extreme. Okay, Kelly and Lainey wouldn't understand because they're single and don't have kids, but you obviously need some 'ME' time desperately and they can help in THAT department.

[Vicki]

Robin, maybe you need to consider what Patrick has said and talk to Kelly or Laney about post partum depression. He loves you so much and only wants to make you and Emma happy.

[joyce]

This is not the "real" Robin Scorpio Drake writing. My friends and I want "our" Robin back ASAP, PLEASE. She has plenty of love and can care for both Patrick and Emma. Maybe this point to ponder will help you when you become overly concerned about your daughter: FEAR is "False Evidence Appearing Real." Remember, Patrick loves you, don't shut him out, let him help you.

[Jim]

Come on, Robin, I know you are concerned about Emma and she needs you, but you must know that your husband Patrick needs you, too, so stop shutting him out. If you keep this up, your marriage to Patrick will fall apart and end up in divorce. Do you want that to happen?

[mavis]

I can tell something is wrong and I hope you feel better soon, because if you don't, all of you may end up hurt, Emma, Patrick and yourself.

[anonymous]

So you went on a honeymoon and didn't have sex? And you brought your daughter? That was a patently stupid idea.

God bless Patrick. That man is more patient and caring than you deserve. Maybe it was more than a romantic gesture. The poor man was trying to tell you that he thinks you are sexy, no matter how low your opinion of yourself is. You are ignorant, uncaring and ten times more arrogant than you accuse him of being.

If you continue to have time only for Emma, you will lose your husband. You are a family now, it's not just about you. Of course, if you aren't ready or in the mood to have sex with him, that's fine, and he understands and has been sensitive to that. Your attitude, however, is unacceptable. Quit blaming the man for your insecurities.

[helen]

He is just going to have to live with it like every other husband in the world has to do.

[anonymous]

You cry more than Emma. Seriously, do you ever shut up?

[joyce's friend, kevin]

Hey, Robin and Patrick, two years ago my wife & I went through what the two of you are experiencing right now. Hang in there, Patrick, it won't last long and the rewards are GREAT! Congrats on your marriage & your cutie-pie, daughter! Doc, we both lucked out, we got HOT, SEXY, BEAUTIFUL, INTELLIGENT wives! The gals in my wife's club are always talking about Robin & Patrick, so had to offer my two cents & encouragement.

[Marie]

Um, WOW! It looked to me like Patrick was just trying to make you feel better about yourself with the gift, not that he was trying to get you into bed. Why not try to be not so hard on your husband? The is a new transition for everyone, not just you.